I had a friend…

We often like to think that we value individuality but the fact is we too often admire the one type of people who’s comfortable “putting himself out there”.

Shy? No . When it was about the social encounter, she was fearless. She used to be there but it never felt like she was. For us, she was lost somewhere on her own world . We were on class 4 when i first got to know her and i guess it will always be with me #forever.

You guys must have good childhood memories no ! All those birthdays, chocolates, cakes, gifts, friends and fairy tales. The irony is, she was never into all of those stuffs. It’s not that she wasn’t invited, it’s not that she had not been approached ,it’s that we never tried to figure what it was. And we weren’t supposed to , remember kids. We then made the so called opinion and labeled her as aloof or arrogant.

After the rejection of many invitations one day she decided to go to one of her friend’s house oops classsmate’s (she didn’t have friends) with two copies on her hand wrapped with a fancy wrapper as it was her birthday . She greeted her “Happy Birthday ” and she left . After a day, on a tiffin break one of her mates asked why did she left early. She didn’t say a word and walked away. Who knew that it was not easy for her to socialize.

Introversion? Heard somewhere? Well, she was an introvert. It is believed that there are four shades of introversion :social, thinking, anxious, and restrained. And you know what introverts’ brain respond to dopamine differently than extroverts’. You’re capable of getting lost in an internal fantasy world .But it’s not in a neurotic way, it’s in an imaginative and creative way. And i guess they are highly infatuated towards the theory of escapism and apply it practically more often 😊

It’s the matter of fact that talkative people or extroverts are likely to desirable as friends. Velocity of speech is directly proportional to be characterized as competent and likeable . And that’s completely okay.

Introverts don’t want to be the centre of limelight either. It’s just we, the Sapiens, the intellectual beings, the extroverts can please stop asking them to fit in everywhere? Or just accept that you don’t value an individuality. It’s natural not a personality disorder. Instead we can try to make them comfortable if they want to. Stop imposing and stop making the opinions because introverts and psychopaths are different.

She was neither a crazy summer

Nor a cozy winter

Somewhere in between deary spring

She was lost on her mind forming a ring

Ring of thoughts: Would I be asked to fit in again?

She ,we were talking about is now, a grown up extrovert i guess but still after a great socializing or a friday night’s party she needs to escape for a long night to refill her energy alone.